When you announce that you are having a baby or planning to have one, you better prepare yourself for tons of unsolicited advice. Friends, family and even strangers will be lecturing you about motherhood so expect to be lessoned on crazy superstitions and the best brands of baby products.
However, there are plenty of important things they are not telling you and ironically, these are the things that you should know as you enter a new phase in your life. Fortunately, we’ve got you covered. Here is everything they didn’t tell you about being a mom.
1. You will turn into a performer.
Hate singing and dancing? You won’t have a choice. Having a baby means memorizing all the lyrics to every nursery song there is because you will be singing them during bath time, eating time and sleeping time. Basically, you will be performing for your little one the whole time! So if you don’t know any nursery song or if you have no idea how to do the chicken dance, you should start practicing now.
2. Your pet will experience a major downgrade.
Right now, you are still treating your pet like your baby but trust us, no matter how much you love it, when the real baby comes out, you won’t have time to pamper your “first baby.” Figure out how you can care for your pet when you have your little one. Perhaps you and your partner can take turns feeding, bathing and walking your pet. It will be tough for a couple of years but as your baby grows, it’ll get easier.
3. A clean living room will become a distant dream.
Enjoy your living room while you still can because it is only a matter of time until it will be covered in oversized and bright toys! Organizers can help but babies and toddlers have a way of making a huge mess no matter what. Here’s a great tip: watch out for those Legos!
4. Your idea of a hot ride will change drastically!
You will have so much baby stuff to haul that you will find yourself wanting a sensible car and by a sensible car we mean a minivan or a wagon. You may have laughed at your parents for wanting that family car but they will certainly have the last laugh when you buy one!
5. Breastfeeding is not as easy as it looks.
Consider yourself warned. Breastfeeding may seem convenient but when you start doing it, you’ll realize that it’s extremely tough. You will deal with latching problems and perhaps some bleeding and infections. If you experience any difficulties, do not hesitate to ask for help.
6. You will sympathize with other moms.
Remember shooting that nasty look at the mom with the noisy baby? You are going to take that back! As you become a mom, you will learn that motherhood is the toughest job on earth and you will find yourself befriending other moms. And that’s one of the most awesome thing about motherhood – when you meet mom friends and build each other up!
7. Your relationship with your mother-in-law may change.
If you and your mother-in-law have never been in good terms, then that could change. With a new common ground (your baby), your relationship may improve significantly. She may surprise you with her helpful advice and appreciation of your parenting skills. On the other hand, if you and your mother-in-law have always been close, your little one can create tension in your relationship. She could barrage you with unsolicited advice and may even take control. In this case, never lose your manners. Always treat your mother-in-law with kindness and your relationship will survive.
8. The word vacation takes on a whole new meaning.
The word vacation no longer means an escapade to the Bahamas. It will mean a pedicure at a salon or having 30 minutes of undisturbed nap time.
9. You will lose friends but you will gain new ones.
Let’s start with the good news. So the good news is, you will gain many of new mom friends who will give you helpful advice and support as you go through motherhood. The bad news is, some of the friendships you’ve had will fall by the wayside. You will no longer have the energy to make them work. With a baby, coffee dates and shopping sprees with your ladies are going to be impossible. But you know what? That’s okay. True friends will understand and stick by you even if you don’t see each other that often.
10. Your sex life will cease to exist.
With a baby thrown in the mix, your sex life will turn into a prehistoric animal. It will cease to exist. With middle-of-the-night feedings and inexplicable tantrums, the both of you will be too tired for action. But no matter how tough things may get, always find the time to bond with your partner. Ask someone you trust to step in once in a while so you and your hubby can get some alone time.
11. You will find motherhood exciting.
“Motherhood is tough.” We’re pretty sure you’ve heard this one a million times already and it may be the cause why you are already freaking out. What if I’m not good at it? What if I don’t raise my kid right? Relax! You’ll be fine. All mothers screw up. Even the best mothers in the world have made mistakes and that’s how they learn.
12. You will gain an appreciation for your genes.
Those things that you hate about yourself? You will grow to love them when you see them on your baby. For instance, those very dimples that you have always disliked will give your baby the cutest smile!